my parenting concerns
my little cousin is 12 this yr but she’s in primary 5 cos she spent her childhood in venezuela. she’s studyin in some neighbourhood sch where she got this supposedly cute 14 yr old china-boy as a bf. apparently this guy has another gf n wat’s really appallin is that he taught my lil cousin how to wank! freak…
my cousin’s msn nick now talks abt love him, love her etc.. she thinks she’s in love wif him n she hopes he’ll love him back e same way etc. shit. n i heard she nows spks e language of LJ and TMD et al. and i thot i was bad enough when i was a young rebellious girl in my sec sch yrs. this girl is barely sec 1 n she’s like e sec 4 equivalent of our time! sheesh.
n then i get scared thinkin of how i shld teach my kid in future. i want to be a modern mum who’s carin n understandin. i want to spend time wif my kid after her sch.. we can go shoppin, watch a movie, have high tea, wateva. i jus wanna be a fren so that she’ll let me into her teenage world n i can understand her better.
i want to let her experience life to the fullest, have fun while young but at e same time i wanna let her understand that she must be responsible. she can go overseas n study, have a nice car if circumstances allow, but she shld be sensible enough to drive carefully n not succumb to peer pressure etc. thinkin of my 2 frens who passed away while drivin overseas makes me shudder.
she can party n date guys but i strongly encourage her not to slp wif them. sometimes i wonder if the kids will listen. how shld i guide her without appearin too domineerin? how can i get her to tell me all that’s happenin to her without being too overbearing? well i sure hope that by providin her with a happy n warm family it’ll shape her beliefs n values the right way, so that she’ll grow up to be a happy n good person.
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I think you need to let her know the consequence of sleeping with guys. Tell her that it will get her pregnent and she will have to stop school, take up the responsiable of parenting.
If she’s not prepared to be a parent and drop out of school, then DON’T DO IT.
Tell her some scarly stories of sch gals getting pregnent.
I think Most gals will avoid when she fully understand the consequence.
Most parent tell their daughter son’t sleep wif guys but ddin’t tell her what happen if she ……… they don’t understand that’s why they still go ahead.
Hope this helps
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